" eid ke dinon mein shohar ka biwi ke sath sasural jana "

 " eid ke dinon mein shohar ka biwi ke sath sasural jana "

suneney mein aaya ke kal yani eid ke dosray din aksar shohar hazraat apni biwion ke sath sasural ka rukh karte hain to socha miyan biwi ke eid ke din sasural jane se mutaliq chand baatein tehreer karta chaloon ke damaad ko eid ke is musarrat mauqa par sasural mein kya hikmat e amli apnani chahiye taakay yeh mulakaatein wazan daar ba asar aur yadgar hon .
pehlay wazeh karta chaloon ke is post mein likhi kisi baat ka Shariat se koy talluq nahi lekin tehreer kardah baton par amal aap sab ke liye Insha Allah mufeed saabit hoga .
eid ke dosray din aik barri tadaad sasural ka rukh karti hai, lekin baaz log pehlay din hi sasural ki taraf nikal parte hain jo ke mere khayaal mein ghalat hai. eid ka pehla din –apne ghar mein reh kar walidain ke sath behan بھایئوں ke sath eid mananay ko tarjeeh den, kahin se kitney hi phone آجایئں kitni hi barri dawatein hon koy naraaz hi kyun nah ہوجاۓ lekin eid ka pehla din –apne ghar walon ke sath guzaren. eid ka dosra din sasural wastay waqf karna behtar hai .
dosray din jab sasural ki taraf chal parrin to laazmi rastay se unkay liye kuch letay jayyn, cake, مٹھائ ya deegar ashya waghera kuch bhi laazmi sasural walon ke liye letay jayyn, khaali haath sasural ja pohanchna nihayat ghair munasib amal hai, is aik chhootey se amal ke baais susraliyon ke dil mein damaad wastay izzat o mohabbat mein izafah hota hai. goya saas aur sasur ko dil se khushi hoti hai .
isi terhan sasural mein pounchanay se pehlay begum ko mukammal zaroorat ke paisay day den, behtar hai ke نۓ noton ki dasti begum ko thama day, jaisa ke ghar pounchanay ke baad choton ko aidee waghera deeni padtee hai to aisa nah ho ke woh –apne hi ghar mein shohar se paisay maangti phiray ke falan falan ko aidee deeni hai ya shohar sab ke samnay begum ko paisay nikaal kar day raha hai ke bachon ko aidee daido. nahi.! sasural pounchanay se pehlay hi begum ko uski zaroorat ke paisay khud hi daido ke begum aap –apne ghar bhay behan ke bachon mein apni taraf aidee taqseem کردیجیے ga. aur khobsorat lagta hai agar aidee نۓ noton ki soorat mein ho .
tamam bachon ko aidee barabar den, aisa na ho ke falan bachay se pyar ziyada hai to usay ziyada aidee daydi, aur falan bacha mere qareeb nahi aata to thoray mein farigh kardiya. yeh bhi ghalat hoga. tamam bachon ko barabar aidee den, kisi ko kam aur kisi ko ziyada dainay se bachon ki dil آذاری hoti hai aur baaz jagah maaon ke dilon mein farq bhi ajata hai ke usay ziyada daydi aur mere bachay ko kam day kar گۓ, lehaza eid ke dinon mein sakhavat ka muzahira karte ہوۓ tamam bachon ko barabar aidee di جاۓ. agar koy bacha mauqa par mojood na ho to uski aidee uski walida ko den .
jab sasural آجایئں to ziyada fuzool naqal o harkat na karen, is se acha impression nahi parta, log mujhe aksar kehte hain ke salk shafeeq bhay hum aap ki is baat se mutfiq nahi ke damaad sasural mein butt ban kar baith جاۓ. nahi mere bhay mein ghair zaroori naqal o harkat se mana karta hon matlab ke aisa na ho ke aik paiir iss kamray mein to dosra paiir dosray kamray mein, uchhalta kodta poooray ghar mein ghoomta phir raha hai. ghar mein park wala mahol nah بناۓ, ghar mein biwi ki behnain hoti hain phir is ghar ki doosri بہوؤیں hoti hain jin ka ghar ke kaam ke silsilay mein idhar se idhar aana jana laga rehta hai lehaza poooray ghar mein ghoomna phirna adab o aadaab ke khilaaf hai .
isi terhan sasural ja kar wahan ke mardon ke sath msrofِ guftagu rahay, biwi ki behnoon se daur rahay, saamna ہوجاۓ to nazrain neechi rakhay. ziyada se ziyada salam ka jawab daiday, aisa na ho ke biwi ki behnoon ke sath lambi kch_hryan chal rahi hain, gappey لڑاۓ jarahay hain, khoob hansi mazzaq chal raha hai, qehqahey لگاۓ jarahay hain. nahi.! biwi ki behnain ghair Mehram hain aur ghair Mehram ke samnay nazrain neechi rakhna Allah ka hukum hai aur mard ka yeh amal dilon mein izzatoon ko berhata hai, mard ke Waqar ko buland karta hai. yaad rakhen aik bawaqar mard aap ko kabhi ghair محرموں ke sath gappey لڑاتا nazar nahi آۓ ga .

khana sasural mein hi کھاۓ, aisa na ho ke kuch der sasural baith kar biwi chore doston o rishta daaron mein chala جاۓ aur wahan khana khale, nahi.! khana sasural mein khanay ko tarjeeh day. ya agar doosri jagah bhi dawat zaroori ho to thora kha kar آجاۓ aur thora sasural mein khale. lekin eid ke din sasural aakar khana کھاۓ baghair chalay jana bilkul ghair munasib hoga. baaz auqaat aisa hota hai ke shohar ne biwi ko to maikay chore diya aur khud hazrat doston mein khana khanay chalay گۓ. nahi yeh ghair munasib amal hoga .
dustar khawan par adab o aadaab ka muzahira kere, aisa na ho ke sasur dastarkhawan par sath baithy hain aur damaad –apne ساڈوؤں ke sath khoob hansi mazzaq aur qehqahon ka lutaf utha raha hai ya mobile calls par masroof hai. yeh aadaab ke khilaaf hai, bura lagta hai aur is se izzat kam hojati hai .
sasural آگۓ, sab se achi terhan mil mila liye, khana bhi hogaya, eid ki khusihyan bhi samaitt len, biwi bhi khush hogye to ab behtar hai ke ab biwi ko leker –apne ghar ka rukh کیجیۓ, qiyam karna durust nah hoga, eid ke din –apne ghar mein achay lagtay hain lehaza sasural mein chand ghantay گذارلینے ke baad ghar aajana behtar hai. agar biwi ka ruknay ka dil ho to eid ke chand dinon baad maikay bhaij degiye lekin eid ke dinon mein –apne gharon ko –apne logon se abad rakhen .
yeh chand aik baatein theen jin par amal karkay sasural mein eid ke din ko khobsorat banaya ja sakta hai .